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Subject: broken heart!
Date: 2004-12-09 21:42:37
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anonymous, Female, age 24
Question
I have been with my boyfriend, well I guess ex now for three years. We lived together for two years and moved to his home town together. He started taking me for granite so I moved and kind of wanted to do my own thing. I kind of dated someone else. But realized I really loved him. He was so hurt by this he didn't speak to me for two months and dated another girl inspite of me. We finally got back together and things were good, except everytime he would have anything to drink he would bring up me hanging out with someone else and lose it. He just couldn't get over it. He recently in the last couple of months got a new bartending job at a really nice restaurant and started pulling away. I kept having that instinctual feeling he was lying. One night he told me he had to work late and I saw him out with another girl. He immediately left and didn't speak to me for 4 days. Then he pretty much broke up with me saying he loves me but theres too much baggage and issues for it to ever work. He won't speak to me or answer my calls. Is he just going through a phase where he wants freedom or is it really over. I just don't understand how he can just let me go after being together so long and not even act like he cares! what should I do? I know I probably shouldn't call him but thats all I want to do. How do I make him realize his making a mistake?I'm so heartbroken.
Response

Why would you want to stay with someone who lies to you?  It's obvious that his feelings have changed.. and so has he. 


He still has issues of what happened.  He may say he loves you but he hasn't forgiven you.  He hasn't let go of the past.  I believe part of him doesn't trust you and he was seriously hurt by what happened.


He may wake up one day and realize that he still wants to be with you but as for right now he has moved on and so must you.  Stop calling him.  Put some closure to this relationship and get on with your life.


And I don't think you really trust him.  Without trust, what left do you have? 


~Duckie
 

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